Sunday, October 18, 2015

Who's the Problem?????





You state everything here as if it were fact. Very little of
what you say and write is fact and if there is a tiny grain of truth to your
statements you twist it up to the point of libel and slander also. Yes, libel,
slander and defamation of character.


There are two types of defamation, libel or written
defamation and slander, verbal defamation. Truth is an absolute defense to
defamation. Defamation is a false statement of fact.  If the statement is fact it is not
defamation. What you have written and stated verbally is false statement of
fact.


Each of your responses can be refuted with letters and
emails YOU wrote or legal tape-recorded conversations with you. You have left
quite a trail of evidence behind you.


Child support was established, through the court, based on
the income of BOTH parents.  That is how
child support was arrived at in this case also. Do you think because you
DEMANDED cash deposited in your bank account there is no record of paid child
support? Yet you say support was never paid. The court established who was to
get the tax deductions for the two children and that was never adhered to. It
is wrong to take a tax deduction the court has appointed to someone else, not
to mention the financial burden involved and breaking the law. The court
established a half way meeting point for visitation since the trip was 602.2
miles one way, once again THAT wasn’t adhered to either. I believe the
statement was, “then I guess you won’t see your children”. So we made all the
trips to pick up and drop off the boys completely at our expense. Going against
a court order is breaking the law, morally wrong and caused undue financial
burden. To add to the financial burden, birthday cards and gifts were sent with
trackers on them. Legal proof that they were ALWAYS sent. That’s how we found
out you all recently moved and told no one. For that you are also accountable.
In your reply on 07/26/13 at 8:30 am you state “I will not let them turn away
from you as you are their father.” If that were the case you would have sent an
email with the new address. You talk the talk but do not walk the walk.


  You neglect to state that you had third party
help for support. You left one household and went directly to live with
Clinton. You act as if you did it ALL ON YOUR OWN and give no credit to Clinton
or anyone else for that matter. You go on and on about MONEY, yet since you
were brought to this country when you had nothing, you have never lacked for
ANYTHING. You neglect the fact that you had two more children with Clinton.  By providing for his two children, he provides
for all.  Many times you have publically
disrespected this man. You posted a secret video you took of Clinton and
Vincent without their knowledge. You continuously poked and prodded Clinton to
try and get an explosive response from him. To his credit he stayed very calm.
So who is the abuser? When the video was discovered you made it private,
thinking that would make it go away.  He
is not deserving of this kind of treatment. The view you present of this relationship
is also slanted.


  You seem to think you, the “children” and “the
wife’s” husband are entitled to money “the wife” has. No one is ENTITLED to
anything the wife has achieved herself. “The wife” is ENTITLED to do as she
sees fit when there is a NEED not just a frivolous WANT.  You seem to think you know what goes on in
this household. You are obsessed with the employment situation in this
household. So much so, that you discuss it with your “mother in law”.  She basically lets you know that is between a
man and his wife and none of your business. And “your mother in law” is 100%
correct. It is none of YOUR business. Many times your “mother in law” and the
rest of the “in laws” have stated they have NEVER liked you. The wife was loved
until you started your smear campaign. “The wife” has brought plenty to the
relationship, including money belonging to “the wife”. “The wife”, in the past,
had been very generous to the children and the in laws.


No one, except you, publicly mentioned anything about a
criminal record. OK so you don’t have a criminal record. Were you ever
arrested?   Notice it was a question that is asked not a
statement of fact.


Your blog reply of July 26, 2013 at 8:29am states “I do not
and never, ever did bother any of you since me and Tony left each other.” There
is written, tape recordings and witnesses to the contrary. “Left each other”?
Did you forget about a letter you wrote that states “I am sorry that I left
you”?


You DEMAND access to a cell phone that you do not pay for.
Though your cell phone access is denied, there is a house phone, as well as
email, and Facebook where messages can be left. Yet you REFUSE to use these
other avenues and CONTINUE to demand the cell phone be unblocked for you. WHY?
You seem to know how to call “your in laws” to get things accomplished, why
can’t you just use the house phone or all the other ways of communication
available to you? No one knew about the graduations until after they happened.
You didn’t call “your in laws” to give them the date well in advance. You
called them AFTER the graduations occurred. All in your household have a way to
contact THIS household.  No one in the
family NEEDS YOU as a go between for the boys. They have been old enough for
quite a few years now and should have their OWN thoughts and decisions without
YOUR prejudices put upon them. At one time you were completely accountable. Now
they share the blame and accountability with you.


You have no problem publically disclosing “the wife” has a
gun. No one here publically disclosed what you and Clinton found in your house,
hidden right under your noses.  That is not
business that should be displayed in public media, nor is firearms in one’s
household. “The wife” has her own money to buy anything she sees as necessary,
whether it is a gun, cigarettes or anything else. NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO
ANYTHING unless SHE is willing to give it. But that is the whole problem here….
It’s all about the money. Over and over again you bring up MONEY. Just look
back at all your responses….  “The wife”
did not create these children. If “the wife” created them, they would have
everything they “needed” not wanted.


You seem to think you have a right to trash anyone you THINK
has done you wrong Even when there has been no malice intended, you come off as
there has been malice directed at you. Your blog reply of July 26, 2013 at 8:29
AM:  responding to a comment “If a woman
is educated, she plans her life, she plans her family, she educates her
children and lifts her descendant out of poverty. She does it joyfully, without
malice or resentment, with not a thought to herself.” Well, you and everyone
else can read your response. Do you ever consider the wrong you have done, in
the past right up until now and how it is tied in to the unhappiness and
bitterness you continue to demonstrate? 
Do you consider how you treat others and it has caused them to pull
away?  You have publically trashed, not
only “the wife” but also other people (who will remain nameless for now).  


 You are not, and have
never been harassed by this household.  However, there is evidence; once again, you
are doing exactly what you accuse others of…. and it will hold up in a court of
law.   If it in any way causes our
household legal issues or employment issues, action will be taken and know that
everything will come out in the wash. 
Stop your nonsense and make right the relationships you have destroyed.
People are not tools to be used. One day we will all have to stand before the
Lord, Our God and have to answer for every thought, word and action. He is the
only one who sees into the heart. With Him, there will be no excuses or
anywhere else to place blame. Make things right before that happens.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

November 5-8, 2011 LA WEEKEND ASIAN JOURNAL

LAST Wednesday, this column talked about a population milestone: seven billion people in the world and counting!


While the more progressive countries have taken their population management seriously, poor and developing countries continue to sire more children than they can afford to raise. And it seems the richer and more educated countries benefit more from modern medicine as the poor families, especially kids, suffer from malnutrition, poverty, high infant mortality.

And as the world population grows exponentially, until when can planet earth provide food, water and take all the toxins, waste, pollution that has begun to threaten our ecosystem?

Isn’t it time for every nation to examine how to better manage its population and resources in the most responsible, equitable and conscientious way? Tama pa ba ang kasabihang “humayo at magpakarami” sa panahong ito?

Our kababayans from different parts of the world shared their opinion and here are some of them:

“Siguro kailangan ng mahihirap ang edukasyon tungkol sa pagpapamilya, na hinaharang naman ng Katolikong pari sa Pilipinas.” – Ellah Thomason

“Anak ng anak, hindi naman pala kayang sustentuhan. Maganda ang populasyon natin kasi maraming bata. Maraming makakasali sa labor force. Pero kung hindi naman sila nakakapag-aral at walang trabahong ibibigay ang gobyerno, dagdag pa sila sa problema ng bansa. Sana lahat ng makakita nito, matuto na. Tayo lang din naman ang makakasalba sa mundo. Tayo lang ang magbibigay ng solusyon sa problemang tayo rin ang gumawa.” – John Jake Crsostomo

“The problem why we are poor is not because of the population, but because of corruption, that makes the money go into one’s pocket, instead of food, clothing, social services etc. that should be extended to everyone. We are blaming the church for all our miseries, but we are not doing the right action that is being taught by the church and that is “to love your neighbor as you love yourself” -- because we are Filipinos and we only love ourselves. That’s us! 100% Pinoy.” – Harrison John Dayandante

“Don’t blame God. That’s why He gave us knowledge and wisdom to be able to think what is right. Kaya nga HE allows us to think a better solution for this kind of situation. Kung wala tayong isip, hindi natin maiisip na kailangan ng RH Bill. Praise God for that. Sa akin lang naman.” – Jeza U. Vergara

“Kung sarap lang naman ang gusto puwede naman. Maraming alternatibong paraan para makaiwas sa pagbubuntis. Pero sabi kasi, a big family is a happy family. Oo, para sa mga mayayaman na kayang tustusan ang pangangailangan ng pamilya nila. Hindi sa mahihirap na walang laman ang bulsa. Ngunit tila baligtad – kung sino pa yung mayaman, siya pa yung nakakapagkontrol sa pag-aanak, at kung sino pa yung mahirap at wala namang [ipapakain] sa kanilang pamilya, siya pa yung padami ng padami ang anak!” – Lhanz Fernandez Oraa

“Na-misinterpret ng karamihan sa atin ang ibig sabihin sa Bible na humayo kayo at magpakarami – it is not for the desire of the flesh, it is for the spiritual growth [of] all mankind. Ang ibig sabihin ni Lord na humayo kayo is, if you know the Word of God you share it to others so they may know that Jesus is alive, even if we can’t see Him. People from other countries, they can control themselves not to have more babies. 1 or 2 is enough. Mayaman na sila pero alam pa rin nila gaano kahirap ang maraming anak. Puwede naman natin gawing example ang iba, we can learn from them.” – Ley Patalinhog-Pilapil

“There are so many people, especially in the provinces who continue their growth. Keep populating, engaging in 8, 10, 12, 14 children per family. They do not understand that at the end, the children are the ones suffering from the parents’ decision to continue having children. The children end up suffering from hunger, illness and no education. And when one of the children or family member is able to get away from all the sufferings and better herself, then she’d be the one carrying the burden of the entire family. That is because of [a] wrong decision. I am sure there are so many out there suffering so that he/she can help the family.”


“Humayo kayo at magpakarami na may takot at pagsunod sa mga salita ng ating Panginoon. Ang problema, ang tao mismo ang gumagawa ng paglabag sa mga alituntunin ng ating Panginoon. Responsible parenthood po ang dapat pairalin, di lang po gawa ng gawa ng bata. Always remember bago ka gumawa ng bata ay dapat handa ka sa mga responsibilidad at pangangailangan ng magiging anak mo.” – Kristine James Buenavista

“ANG HUMAYO KAYO AT MAGPAKARAMI ay utos ng Diyos Ama kay Adan at Eva, sapagkat nung mga panahon na inutos sa kanila ito ay wala pang laman ang mundo. Kaya nga sinabi din ng Diyos na kalatan nyo ang mundo at maging mapalaanakin kayo. Yun ay kay Eva At Adan. Di na sa panahon nating ito.” – Melvin Villanueva Delas Alas

“Maybe if we educate people regarding birth control, we would not have to blame the church. And just common sense, if you can’t afford to raise children, don’t go forth and multiply.” – McLean Seirra de Gador

“Go forth and multiply is a biblical verse as old as time which, when applied in this age of OVERPOPULATION, is ILLOGICAL, NAIVE, and LAME!” – Rhynce Derek

“PATAY NA ANG RH BILL. Huwag na kayong mangarap buhayin pa yan, lalo na kayong mga Anti-Catholic. Say what [you want to] say against the Church but admit your defeat” – Gilbert Ilagan

“I’m sure marami sa mga mag-asawa na maraming anak ang gusto ay maliit na pamilya. Hindi nila gustong mag-anak ng sampu. Ang problema, hindi nila alam kung ano ang dapat gawin. Kulang sila sa kaalaman tungkol sa reproductive system, hindi naman kasi ganun kalawak ang itinuturo tungkol sa sex and health education sa high school, kaya kulang sa awareness. Kung magpapakasal, nire-require na kumuha ng family planning orientation, sinasabi lang naman ang paggamit ng condom, pills, etc. at mga natural methods, pero, hindi naman ipinapaliwanag kung ano ang mga ito at kung ang ano ginagawa nito sa katawan. At masyado pa ring pinaniniwalaan ang mga myth. Lastly, IMO, malaki ang influence ng simbahan sa isip ng mga tao kaya kailangan ng simbahan na maging responsible at conscientious o careful sa kanilang sinasabi. Im pro-RH Bill.” – Nieva Adviento Scott

“Isisisi na naman sa mga pari? Hay! Ang katigasan ng ulo ng tao at kawalan ng disiplina ang problema ng bansa natin. Puwede ba? I don’t think na overpopulated tayo, dahil ang totoo, overcrowded lang especially ang urban areas. But anyway, di magtatagumpay ang RH Bill na yan. Dahil sa RH Bill, patay kang bata ka! Ituturo ng condoms at pills ang pagiging RESPONSIBLE PARENTS aber? Mahiya kayo kung

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